She wants to end our relationship here but I find it impossible and implausible to end our relationship like this! :) ATB :). Please, loveinindia……give me some suggestions…... Hi loveinindia…… please advise me somthing – Thanku .. Take it from me – it’s rarely possible. But no one could ever come close to my bf and what I shares with him! 2. Is that what he wants? In addition, the wife of my brother is not in favor of our relationship. He’s not worth your time anyway. We’ve all heard those anecdotes of parents locking their daughter up in the home for stopping her from contacting her boyfriend, and getting her married off forcibly. Long story made short & precise: I saw her online, liked so sent frnd request on FB. But i told them even she is gujju. On the average I get about three such queries every day and they make me sad and angry. 2. the problem comes in with my mum she will not except it an said she never will i am terrified of loosing her as we were were once very close and she is quite a harsh women who is very old fashion and thinks what i am doing is completely wrong. Your parents clearly don’t value your happiness much. Thank you, {{form.email}}, for signing up. Of course. Fingers crossed…, Hello mam, Make sure you’re mentally prepared for possible hardships that might come with having to start a family from scratch with no financial backing (this is where taking a few more years to understand him better comes in). Read the artcile you’ve commented on again. if necessary, you can eke out a life on your own, regardless of help from your parents OR husband. And did u managed to marry ur love. does al predictions come true.. Convince parents each and every item what they are discussing – Everything needs to be validated by both sides. All the best. My family is not agreeing. Generation Difference/Cultural Difference/Belief System: For example in the current generation- How do “you” feel if “your” son wants to marry another boy(gay), or if “your” daughter wants to marry another girl(lesbian) (I am slightly exaggerating to make the point understandable). This can be categorized into two ways Can u plz help me with this? parents they ll not take me Snigdha Mishra February 19, 2019. I'll suggest them the same which I advised them. Here, my parents are forcing me to get married(as am turning 30). My parents say its a mistake to proceed fr a intercaste mrge and what I am dng by convincing dem is “Making dem to involve in the mistake which I have committed”. So sad :( :( :(. Am I taking the right decision? Indian this year on a business summit. The solution here is for your boyfriend to come to your home and ask your parents “for your hand”. parents at dat time because of the Four days ago i dared to talk to my mom when my dad was not in town. So the question is why Wazifa to convince parents. If my gf parents accepts me she is ready to marry me. On the other hand, if I do marry my boyfriend….maybe life will be tough financially…maybe it wont. And how should he convince his parents. In my situation right now am d single daughter n my mom totally lived n still lives for me… So i cant just think lyk he thinks n be selfish as she had faced so many problems in bringing me up for d past 25yrs being a widow… So i think of deciding to stay for my mom… In dat case i had to lose my love which will lead to be being single until i myself think of getting married to another person which is quite impossible… But i can handle myself watever happens to me… But will my decision be right? Here you are, fasting away, taking a huge risk on yourself. Let’s say today you make a sacrifice by ditching your long-term partner for a guy/girl your parents chose, just to make them happy. :). there are no any issue of cast or family value.. now my parents are keep asking me about money that whatever they spent for me to send me canada for studies just because they knows that they can break my relationship to do this and they are keep doing emotionally torturing me so what can i do??? :), I have Rohan… let me know what you think about it. I’ve replied to your original comment. Ma boy friend dont want to get married against parents decision. A parent who disapproves of your partner choice is not a new concept. He says he wont marry anyone else except me … no matter wht … n says me to b strong n to keep my patience …. So the first thing you need to understand is that fighting per se is NOT a sign that the relationship is a wrong relationship. Plzz hlp me…… M 22yrs old n my gf is 3 yrs eldr den me. Indeed, if your parents’ influence drives your opinions in your marriage, then you may find that your marriage is among four people instead of between two. All the best! What most controlling parents try to do in their attempt to stop their child from marrying the “wrong” guy/girl is to get them married off elsewhere as soon as possible. Ask your gf what’s going on between her and her parents. I am in chaos in mind. Both of us badly want to be married to each other. I Have been dating a guy for almost two years. Yantra Suggestion For You : Shukra Yantra . –> I explained them that society problems are their with the girl also but her parents are looking for her happiness. i dono how to marry him. That’s a situation you have full rights to refuse under any circumstances and you should exercise those rights. But we cant forget each other. but my parents doesnot know the caste of the guy,if they came to know,either they will die,else they may kill me,my parents are very aged facing health issues, i cannot come out of home also as i m only daughter in my family,also we cannot break our relation.as the guy is loving me a lot,we are planing to lie my parents & get marry?is this is correct so how to go about this,please help, Pls help me… Iam also planning for this idea do hv any idea in thid pls help…, pl see the child after born This is because my family is too orthodox and the cultural clashes will be the everyday norm which wil make my life difficult which may end up in unhappy events. Though, I was attracted to her at first, it was different – it was “Love”. I recently talked with my dad n mom. Hi, Me and my lover come under different castes but we both hail from the same place and speak the same language.Both of our parents are not agreeing for this just b’coz we belong to a different caste.We both worship same God,have common culture with vegetarian food habits,both are in gud position in our job too but parents just see the caste part.And they emotionally blackmail me and … Point this out to him. ;) My parents have made it very clear that they will not allow my wife to enter the house. The visible influences of his Punjabi transport business owning family on him may be minimal. Then how are you different from a girl in a remote Indian village with zero choice wrt marriage? They have huge issues all the time, so his brother regrets his decision as well. You’d get some ideas. I also tried explaining them about my gf’s parent’s situations and asked them to give me sometime so that i can try to convince my gf’s parent. And if that doesn’t work, don’t be afraid to take a more direct approach: What to do When Your Parents Just WON’T Agree to Your Marriage. Thnks for ur suggestion. Plzzz help …i wrote thrice but no responce from u yet… If your child is a minor and is requesting you to give legal consent to marriage, say no. 21 is no age for marriage. I really loved him, but his mother was against us and he had no good paying job. 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